By jeff brown
I’ve had a number of head scratching moments with women throughout the years, like when...
Once a girl that was rejecting me said I should wait to see if a girl liked me before trying to sweep them off their feet!
Wasn't sweeping them off their feet supposed to make them like you?
There was the time after going out on several dates, that my future fiance had been approached by another guy, and she told me she wouldn't do anything to mess up what we had!
While I was flattered, I thought, "What we had?" We'd been dating for two weeks!
And what on earth could explain my discovery that being a jerk to women actually made them like me MORE?
It’s easy to see how men can grow bitter and jaded with women due to these inconsistencies in what’s supposed to happen and what really happens. She said one thing, but she did another. She says she wants nice, sweet guys, but she ends up dating assholes.
Maybe it’s just you and you’re destined to die alone?
Maybe all women are just flighty and a mystery never to be solved by anyone?
It’s understandably frustrating, infuriating even, but what if I told you it was completely explainable, and most definitely fixable?
If attraction and chemistry were truly a mystery, it wouldn’t be the same issues coming up each time. There is a reason she ghosted you. There IS a reason you got friend zoned. There is a reason she lost interest in you.
Women do what they do with love and attraction for the same reasons. There is a best way to get a girl, and a best way to keep a girl. Getting a girlfriend can be daunting, but keeping her in love with you is much harder.
I’ve personally found many ways to lose a girl, and without learning from those losses, I wouldn’t be with the incredibly supportive, sexy, growth minded, intelligent, funny, passionate woman for the past 10 years that I am.
We wouldn’t have 3 crazy rug rats running around and looking to add more. We wouldn’t be chasing each other around getting frisky after the kids go to bed. We are validation of what happens when a couple lives their lives by the right set of rules.
Many people unfortunately don’t have as much success in marriage, or in relationships, or in dating. Don’t be fooled, falling out of love is an epidemic. Look around you. How many happy couples do you know… that have been together more than 3 years? Now think about all the couples that have broken up or worse are still living their lives unhappily together.
So who’s to blame here for all of the heartache and longing? Is it men and our over inflated egos? Is it women and all their peculiarities?
It’s very likely just a simple yet profound disconnect that has developed over thousands of years where we humans have inserted our own narratives into what we think happens with attraction and chemistry, versus what truly occurs with our subconscious emotional feelings. And make no mistake- feelings compel action. Feelings decide who a woman stays with and who she leaves.
The saddest part is this phenomenon is completely manageable. If you’re growth minded and have a good attitude, lifelong happiness and fulfillment are there for the taking.
You can position yourself at the top of the pack in skill with women and romance in that rare place where dating becomes second nature.
Like Neo in The Matrix you’ll see the world of attraction around you as it truly is for the first time. You’ll understand exactly why you’re in your current predicament and how to get out. You’ll dodge undesirable situations and undesirable women with ease. You’ll understand exactly why some people succeed and why others fail with love.
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