BY Jeff Brown
It's easy to invest in the experiences of the famous. Their ups and downs are on display in high definition, modeling what "successful" lives looks like. But why can't they seem to do any better with love than the rest of us...
Let me start by saying I'm sorry to Chris and Anna, as I've enjoyed watching both of them on the big screen, first noticing Anna in the Scary Movie franchise, and more recently having the pleasure of watching Chris shine in Guardians of the Galaxy 1 and 2. Both have an impeccable sense of humor and comedic timing, and seem like individuals I would enjoy spending time with.
I believe it's important to understand why relationships fail, so today we'll be dissecting what went wrong with Chris and Anna's love.
Fame can wreck a relationship as fast as anything. Imagine having the opposite sex throwing themselves at you on a regular basis, or not having enough time to even spend alone with yourself, not to mention maintaining a relationship. There's simply too many people vying for your time.
And what about jealousy? What happens when one partner suddenly gets eclipsed by the other in their notoriety? What does that do to our fragile psyche?
In a recent E News article it describes how Anna felt she had "lost her voice throughout their marriage" and her "sense of self."
2. Compatibility Issue #1: Parenting styles
Word on the street is Chris and Anna have different parenting philosophies. This was one of the main motives for the Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie split as well.
Parenting style is a biggie. From raising 3 girls so far under the age of 5, I've learned it really helps to be on the same page as mother and father. Robin and I have read a number of books that have helped tremendously, from The Happiest Baby on the Block, to Love and Logic, and more.
For those of you considering kids, I highly recommend discussing your parenting style with your partner both before the little ones arrive and on a regular basis when they get here. Robin and I have always agreed to focus on finding what works best for our children, and sometimes that takes a bit of trial and error. When there have be disagreements on how to tackle an issue, we've found a way to go with whoever has the best result, and not take it personally when one or both is wrong.
3. Compatibility Issue #2: Religious beliefs
It has also been reported that while Chris is "very religious," Anna, not so much.
Like parenting, spiritual beliefs are a common cause of friction in long term relationships. I highly recommend the book The Ten Conversations You Must Have Before Getting Married by Dr. Guy Grenier for any couple looking to take the next step(s) in a long term situation. It helped Robin and I confirm that we were not only completely aligned physically and emotionally, but near completely in our compatibility beliefs.
One final thought on compatibility, couples don't have to be "exactly" like each other, and I think that would get quite boring if it were possible. Never underestimate the power of growth and compromise together, of being understanding and empathetic of each others feelings, because all the logic in the universe can't change our feelings...
Trust me, I've tried.
Even if a couple remains physically and emotionally attracted to each other, compatibility elements can still derail and otherwise solid relationship.
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