The gray areas of "romance" have always fascinated me. Over time I've discovered much about how interest is established and lost. I believe the "spark" and feeling of chemistry is not nearly as mysterious as people believe.
Men and women are biologically different and our neurophysiology plays a much larger role in who we're attracted to than we realize. We have different bodies, different hormones, different physiology, different psychology, varying strengths and weaknesses. We are different, and that's okay.
Ever wondered why romance doesn't work out like it does in the movies? You told her your feelings and it blew up in your face huh? You persisted and she told you to get lost? I'll explain why.
For the past several years, I've been secretly coaching men and women in the gladiatorial arena that is r/dating_advice. I decided on the name "Coach Tough Love" because love can be a tough concept to master if you refuse to go with reality. That and I have a tendency to be a bit... abrupt at times.
I've since realized after countless interactions that being "right" doesn't matter when putting people on the defensive. I'm continually working to be more empathetic in my interactions and even created the subreddit, r/ScienceOfDating that has tons of useful content on understanding human attraction.
Update: I've been on Quora for a year now and have over 500 answers with over 400,000 views!
There are plenty of dating and relationship "gurus" out there, but how many are actually in a successful relationship?!? Who has a hot wife of 11 years still chasing him around getting frisky even with 3 kids under 5? This guy!
If a hot future wife or husband chasing you around after 11 years, building your lives together, and continually creating new adventures sounds like something you'd be in to, then I'm your guy.